It’s rough learning to make all the decisions you want to make… it’s tough having to say “no” to a friend or someone you thought you wanted as a friend… it’s just hard to sometimes stand up for yourself.
Sometimes we’re afraid that if we say no (even to something that is harmful to us) we may lose a friend or not fit in to a group we want to be a part of. Truth is, people respect you for standing up for yourself and your beliefs. The more often you make decisions that are smart, healthy and right for you… the easier it becomes. The more confident you become the more your life unfolds as you would like it to.
But, how do you say “no”, how do you turn down something that’s offered to you? How do you refuse to try drugs, for example. Well, there’s lots of ways and you can try out a few of them as see which ones feel the most natural to you.
The best way to refuse alcohol, tobacco or other drugs is to hang with people who don’t use them and who feel like you do.
By the way, it’s a great idea to practice these skills. There are lots of different situations that will occur and it’s a good idea to try to think through some of them ahead of time. Maybe role play with a friend or parent or at least just talk about the possibilities. It helps, really.